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Understanding Bullies and the Act of Bullying

Gracie Barra St Peters Anti-Bullying Program

Yes. You read it right. We are to understand bullies. Although we are not to assume that all bullies are emotionally scarred because of an unhappy childhood, or just “paying-it-forward” by bullying others, we are to shed little bit of light to why they act in such a way. Are you still with me? :)

Brazilian Jiu Jitsu Anti Bullying Program St Peters

Brazilian Jiu Jitsu Anti Bullying Program St Peters

Bullies Enjoy Audience

www.stopbullying.gov posits an interesting, often overlooked element of bullies; the audiences. Bullying is reinforced by the outsiders. Think of them as mere spectators in an MMA fight that screams, “kill,”or shouts, “knock his @#$!! out.”

This elements gives the bully an illusion that it’s ok to intimidate, coerce, and scare someone. Audiences and supporters get involved, and a little laughter and reinforcement goes a long way to bullies.

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Bullies and their Assistants

Much like the Silver Back Apes of the Congo, bullies have posse’s. These are kids who assist the bully. They are more likely to become bullies themselves after a short while. These kids do not instigate the bullies. Think of this kid as the creepy little dude that gives the bad king bad advices.

What Bullies Want

Based on studies, these are things that bullies require:

  1. Recognition / fullfilment
  2. Space
  3. Superiority
  4. Engagement

What We Can Do

Do we focus on the person, or on the behaviour? It is very tempting to address and label the bully disturbed, ill-mannered, or just plain evil. As adults, we need to recognize the behaviour and address that behaviour rather than addressing the bully. Remember that to become effective counselors to address bullying behaviours, we should address the behaviour and not the person.

Remember: bullying is a behaviour. It is a behaviour learned, therefore it can be unlearned and corrected.

An Answer to Bullying? 

No Bullying Campaign

Gracie Barra is commited in becoming an organization against bullying. So far, we have seen success stories of bullied kids after being enrolled in the anti-bullying program. Although, bully-proofing starts at home, we are happy to let everyone know that our campaign has seen success and has transformed the lives of many kids.

 

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